Monday, December 28, 2009

你遲早會忘記我

(蔣芸)2009年12月27日

高錕得大獎,舉世聞名,高夫人也因此贏得世人讚嘆,她讓大家知道伴着一位患老人痴呆症的丈夫日子不好過,而最令她耽憂的是:你遲早會忘記我……此時,只見痴呆的老人笑容可掬,安慰道:小事來嘅,小事來嘅……
看到這個場面,你會覺得高錕既不痴也不呆,而且還是一個哲學家,簡直可以再得一個諾貝爾哲學獎。
有那一個身為丈夫的男士,會在妻子耽驚受怕時,講出這麼睿智的一句話?人生八苦,而女人的苦尤多,既得之,患失之,既得之,又患他心變,患他有第二第三第四者……又患青春美麗一失去情也難續,一個妻子,老來伴着一個既不痴又不呆,活力十足還魅力非凡的丈夫,那日子肯定比高夫人更難過矣。而那做丈夫的對於妻子的神經衰弱,疑神疑鬼,疲勞夜審,甚至跟蹤、查訪……有幾個能像高博士這般瀟洒應對:小事來嘅,小事來嘅……
你遲早會忘記我,與你遲早不再愛我,甚至你是否曾真的愛過我,都是不能查根究底,連番審問的題目,不管你有沒有痴呆,你是真痴或假呆,共同生活了幾十年的夫妻都不應過問也不應該回答,高錕教會了這些聰明過度的男人們一個完美的答案:小事來嘅……小事來嘅,真是神來之答
難道不是嗎?當這一個丈夫,七十多歲了,大半生在研究着情有獨鍾着一項貢獻至深,還改變世界的重大事業;從外型上來看,他老得好漂亮,好潔淨,好陽光,行得食得,運動也還行,只不過不能像以往一般應對,甚至還忘了你是誰?他變得像一個大孩子一般,但仍然健康而快樂的活着,這豈不是一項天大的恩賜,因為上天給了他一個大好休養生息的晚年。
朋友之中也有差不多的例子,如明珠對劉東,如鳳琼對她痴呆的母親,她們的做法是從不認為對方已喪失對話聊天的能力,每一個相聚的時刻,看到什麼,想到什麼都如常說着,還興致勃勃的告訴着,而且還會去猜測對方的感受,並加以確認,喜孜孜的告訴友人,今天他進步了多少……今天又有什麼新發現,她們以積極樂觀的態度去照料一個反應已不像從前的伴侶,亦從不耽心:你遲早會忘了我是誰?
傑出華人系列中,高夫人曾提到五十多年前,高錕有如一個白馬王子拯救她脫離那陰暗的古堡歲月……一段良緣因此奠定。童話的故事總有結束的一天,但黃美芸更幸運,今天的高錕與她的地位正是時移勢轉,她變成了騎着白馬的公主,而有一個被困在古堡中老去的王子,需要她拯救,王子住在一個她並不熟悉的世界,那是我們大部份人也不真正熟悉的世界,公主應該耽心的實在不應該是:你遲早會忘記我,而是,如果那一個世界,能讓你永遠展露你那陽光般的笑容,那麽,既使你把我忘掉了,且讓那可愛的小精靈們永遠陪伴你徜徉在春天的花海之中吧,又何必記得我是誰。

Sunday, December 27, 2009

愛,或者不愛

Hasta Manana 情莫變



Where is the spring and the summer
That once was yours and mine
Where did it go I just don't know
But still my love for you will live forever

Hasta Manana 海枯石爛
莫變遷 莫變遷
期待那一天我們再會面
重續那溫馨美夢快樂似仙

Hasta Manana 兩相纏綿
共眷戀 如玉燕
我要你 永對我不要說再見
永與我同在 Hasta Manana Baby
Hasta Manana 情莫變

Where is the blue We were thru
And all the nights we'd shared
Where did it go I just don't know
And I can't tell you just
How much I miss you

Hasta Manana 兩相纏綿
共眷戀 如玉燕
我要你 永對我不要說再見
永與我同在 Hasta Manana Baby
Hasta Manana 情莫變

Hasta Manana 兩相纏綿
共眷戀 如玉燕
我要你 永對我不要說再見
永與我同在 Hasta Manana Baby
Hasta Manana 情莫變

原曲是ABBA的Hasta Manana,很多年以前,呂珊曾經重唱,那時很喜歡這首歌,因爲每次聼到,都覺得快樂。

Saturday, December 26, 2009

All I Want For Christmas Is You



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azcimpWgCT0


I dont want a lot for christmas
Theres just one thing I need
I dont care about presents
Underneath the christmas tree
I just want you for my own
More than you could ever know
Make my wish come true...
All I want for christmas
Is you...

I dont want a lot for christmas
There is just one thing I need
I dont care about presents
Underneath the christmas tree
I dont need to hang my stocking
There upon the fireplace
Santa claus wont make me happy
With a toy on christmas day
I just want you for my own
More than you could ever know
Make my wish come true
All I want for christmas is you...
You baby

I wont ask for much this christmas
I wont even wish for snow
Im just gonna keep on waiting
Underneath the mistletoe
I wont make a list and send it
To the north pole for saint nick
I wont even stay awake to
Hear those magic reindeer click
cause I just want you here tonight
Holding on to me so tight
What more can I do
Baby all I want for christmas is you
You...

All the lights are shining
So brightly everywhere
And the sound of childrens
Laughter fills the air
And everyone is singing
I hear those sleigh bells ringing
Santa wont you bring me the one I really need -
Wont you please bring my baby to me...

Oh I dont want a lot for christmas
This is all Im asking for
I just want to see baby
Standing right outside my door
Oh I just want him for my own
More than you could ever know
Make my wish come true
Baby all I want for christmas is
You...


Dear E,
Maybe I'll find my soul mate same time next year.
Without hope and agenda,
just because it's my birthday and
I want to tell you the truth:
To me, you're perfect and
my pure heart will love you until
you're as old as a mummy:)
XOXO

Friday, December 25, 2009

Love Will Find A Way - The Lion King



In a perfect world
One we've never known
We would never need to face the world alone

They can have the world
We'll create our own
I may not be brave or strong or smart
But somewhere in my secret heart

I know
Love will find a way
Anywhere I go
I'm home
If you are there beside me

Like dark turning into day
Somehow we'll come through
Now that I've found you
Love will find a way

I was so afraid
Now I realize
Love is never wrong
And so it never dies

There's a perfect world
Shining in your eyes
And if only they could feel it too
The happiness I feel with you

They'd know
Love will find a way
Anywhere we go
We're home
If we are there together

Like dark turning into day
Somehow we'll come through
Now that I've found you
Love will find a way

I know love will find a way...




Dear E,
Love will find a way. It's never wrong so it never dies :) 我真的無法就此把它全根拔起!

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

How to Make A Woman Happy

It's not difficult to make a woman happy.
A man only needs to be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18.. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
44. compassionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:

54. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes


HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1. Show up naked and bring alcohol

Sunday, December 20, 2009

高錕所標示的科學精神




李怡 2009年12月12日

高錕獲諾貝爾獎,香港人特別感到與有榮焉。不僅因為他是華人,因為他的香港聯繫。華人而有香港聯繫的獲獎者過去也有過,但像高錕那樣近二十年擔任香港中文大學校長作育無數英才的緊密聯繫卻未有過。此外,過去獲獎者的學術成就,一般市民都不太明白,但高錕發明光纖造就的網絡世界,現在幾乎人人都在享其成果。因此,筆者也和許多香港市民一樣,前晚深夜在電視機前見證高錕獲此殊榮的一刻。

在高錕夫人黃美芸代表高錕發表演說中,最後播出高錕先前接受香港電台訪問的片段,由高錕本人作結,他說:「光纖是最好的,在一千年之內找不到一個新的系統來代替它。我這樣講,你們不應該相信我,因為我本來也不相信專家的講法。」

這段話絕對是高錕送給香港人以至全人類的金句。它反映的不僅是高錕個人的謙遜,而且體現了一個崇尚科學的理性主義者的「永遠存疑」的精神,對任何事物包括自己發明的事物的批判精神。

英國哲學家 Gibert Ryle( 1900-1976)曾說:「人的理性不在於對原則性的事務永不懷疑,而在於永遠存疑;不在於固執著名的公理,而在於不把任何事物視為理所當然。」

正是這種不斷懷疑、批判的精神,將人類的文明推向前,上世紀被稱為最偉大的哲學家卡爾.波柏( Karl Popper, 1902-1994)認為,科學是由問題開始的,任何知識不論其來源如何,基本上是臆測性的。人們向來把科學知識當成確定性的知識,波柏卻指出,牛頓的理論雖經過千百次印證,但當愛因斯坦的理論提出後,不但能解釋牛頓所能成功解釋的情況,還可以解釋牛頓理論無法解釋的情況,因此愛因斯坦理論更優於牛頓。

高錕那一金句,印證了波柏的理性主義:每個人所知有限,而我可能錯,你可能對,經由相互的批判與討論,也許我們較容易獲致真理。因此,一個真正的科學家會經常秉持合理而謙遜的態度,這種態度就是科學態度,它反對訴諸權威,而與暴力互不相容。

高錕的謙遜來自他的科學精神,因為他不相信世上有「絕對真理」。真理總是在不斷懷疑與批判中才得到發展。他任中大校長期間,以鼓勵學生不要盲從權威見稱,他當年即使與學生辯論後,回家仍對太太說:「甚麼都反對才像學生」。因為正如波柏所說,「批判即是科學的精神」。

由於知識無絕對,真理無絕對,因此高錕的另一金句:堅持自己的夢想,因為你永遠不知道,未來會怎樣。

人類歷史究竟朝哪個方面發展,怎樣發展,在相當程度上受到人類知識發展所左右,而知識究竟會有何發展,更非人們可以預知。因此宣稱可以預言人類未來發展的說法,都是經不起經驗事實否證的。

概括高錕所說及身體力行的科學精神,一是永遠存疑、不盲從權威;二是批判即是科學;三是追求真理無止境,因此人類永遠不知道未來。

中國大陸的土壤,六十年來為甚麼永遠出不了一個高錕級數的科學家。首先就是在意識形態上確定未來不但可知,而且有一定的「歷史規律」,就是「資本主義必將被共產主義取代」。為了明確這一不容懷疑的「歷史規律」,不惜採用暴力手段,壓制任何懷疑的聲音,並不惜以國家暴力手段,去加速共產社會的實現。現在雖已實際上放棄了社會主義的追求,但對國家政策仍不容懷疑、批判,任何對國策提出異議的人,都受到鎮壓。胡錦濤雖提出「科學發展觀」,但壓制任何批判的聲音,正背離了真正的科學精神。

當香港的建制派把泛民主派稱為反對派時,他們應知道,按高錕所標示的科學精神,反對派才是促使社會進步的動力。而中國禁制人民完全享受資訊自由的政策,正正是扼殺自由也扼殺中國科學發展的政策。

Saturday, December 19, 2009

"Constanly" with Marlene Dietrich



Constantly by Cliff Richard

All day I'm walking in a dream
I think about you constantly
Just like an ever flowing stream
Your memory haunts me constantly
Shadows fall and I try to drive you from my mind
So you're no longer near to me
But my heart sees you there with me
Every sunset you share with me
The rain that patters through the tree reminds
Me of you constantly
Your name is whispered by the breeze and love birds
Bring your song to me
Just as sure as each star keeps burning
In the sky your love will stay a flame in me
A flame that burns so bright
Not only through the night
But constantly
Though we may be far apart
You're constantly deep in my heart

我總是會想起你,掛念你,想起你牽我手的那一天,我知道我們囘不了去,我會好好放在心裏。