The Missing Piece & the Big O - Shel Silverstein

Big O:

簡單之美，人生如是，愛情如是，都容納不了強求。

如果我不能是你的missing piece，我就變成 small O，陪你身邊一起轉動。

I Love You

I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out.

Roy Croft

Dedicated to my coffee. :)

二○○八年經典語錄

• 「酒，裝在瓶 像水，喝到肚 鬧鬼，說起話來走嘴，走起路來閃腿，半夜起來 找水，早上起來後悔，中午酒杯一端還是挺美。」

• 「你要不理我我就成包子了，而且還是天津最有名的……嘿嘿……」
  （注：天津最有名的包子是「狗不理包子」。）

• 「媽媽說，人最好不要錯過兩樣東西：最後一班回家的車和一個深愛你的人。」
  （注：要點是「媽媽說」。）

• 「學問之美，在於使人一頭霧水；詩歌之美，在於煽動男女出軌；女人之美，在 於蠢得無怨無悔；男人之美，在於說謊說得白日見鬼。」

• 「我能容忍身材是假的，臉是假的，胸是假的，臀是假的，但就是不容忍錢是假 的。」

• 「還能衝動，表示你還對生活有激情；總是衝動，表示你還不懂生活。」

• 「問世間情是何物，不過一物治一物……。」

• 「上帝使人滅亡，必先使其瘋狂；上帝使人瘋狂，必先使其買房。」

• 「問：你喜歡我哪一點？答：我喜歡你離我遠一點。」

• 「大師兄，你知道嗎？二師兄的肉現在比師父的都貴了。」
  （二師兄是豬八戒。）

• 「聽說女人如衣服，兄弟如手足。回想起來，我竟然七手八腳地裸奔了二十年。」

• 「小時候，我以為自己長大後可以拯救整個世界；長大後，才發現整個世界都拯 救不了我。」

• 「過錯是暫時的遺憾，錯過則是永遠的遺憾。」

• 「憶往昔，紅米飯，南瓜湯，老婆一個，孩子一幫；看今朝，白米飯，王八（水 魚）湯，小孩一個，老婆一幫。」

嘉菲貓的哲學

Milan Kundera's Quotations

"The brain appears to possess a special area which we might call poetic memory and which records everything that charms or touches us, that makes our lives beautiful ... Love begins with a metaphor. Which is to say, love begins at the point when a woman enters her first word into our poetic memory."

"When the heart speaks, the mind finds it indecent to object."

"the only relationship that can make both partners happy is one in which sentimentality has no place and neither partner makes any claim on the life and freedom of the other. "

"Love is the longing for the half of ourselves we have lost."

"Perhaps all the questions we ask of love, to measure, test, probe, and save it, have the additional effect of cutting it short. Perhaps the reason we are unable to love is that we yearn to be loved, that is, we demand something (love) from our partner instead of delivering ourselves up to him demand-free and asking for nothing but his company."

"The heaviest of burdens crushes us, we sink beneath it, it pins us to the ground. But in love poetry of every age, the woman longs to be weighed down by the man's body.The heaviest of burdens is therefore simultaneously an image of life's most intense fulfillment. The heavier the burden, the closer our lives come to the earth, the more real and truthful they become. Conversely, the absolute absence of burden causes man to be lighter than air, to soar into heights, take leave of the earth and his earthly being, and become only half real, his movements as free as they are insignificant. What then shall we choose? Weight or lightness?"

"There are no small parts. Only small actors."

"People are always shouting they want to create a better future. It's not true. The future is an apathetic void of no interest to anyone. The past is full of life, eager to irritate us, provoke and insult us, tempt us to destroy or repaint it. The only reason people want to be masters of the future is to change the past."

"The struggle of man against power is the struggle of memory against forgetting."

"I imagine the feelings of two people meeting again after many years. In the past they spent some time together, and therefore they think they are linked by the same experience, the same recollections. The same recollections? That's where the misunderstanding starts: they don't have the same recollections; each of them retains two or three small scenes from the past, but each has his own; their recollections are not similar; they don't intersect; and even in terms of quantity they are no comparable: one person remembers the other more than he is remembered; first because memory capacity varies among individuals (an explanation that each of them would at least find acceptable), but also (and this is more painful to admit) because they don't hold the same importance for each other. When Irena saw Josef at the airport, she remembered every detail of their long-ago adventure; Josef remembered nothing. From the very first moment their encounter was based on an unjust and revolting inequality."

我看過的米蘭昆德拉的作品不多，只有1984年的「生命不能承受之輕」和2000年的Ignorance，兩者充滿哲理，呈現昆德拉的見地，發人深省，所以看一次不夠，每看一次會發現更多。

Baby I'm A Fool

How was I to know that this was always only just a little game to you?
All the time I felt you gave your heart I thought that I would do the same for you
Tell the truth I think I should have seen it coming from a mile away
When the words you say are
"Baby I'm a fool who thinks it's cool to fall in love"

If I gave a thought to fascination I would know it wasn't right to care
Logic doesn't seem to mind that I am fascinated by the love affair
Still my heart would benefit from a little tenderness from time to time but never mind
Cos baby I'm a fool who thinks it's cool to fall in love

Baby I should hold on just a moment and be sure it's not for vanity
Look me in the eye and tell me love is never based upon insanity
Even when my heart is beating hurry up the moment's fleeting
Kiss me now
Don't ask me how
Cos baby I'm a fool who thinks it's cool to fall
Baby I'm a fool who thinks it's cool to fall
And I would never tell if you became a fool and fell in love.

Morrie's Quotes

"There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they need, what they can do and what their life is like."

"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in."

"It's not to late to... ask yourself if you really are the person you want to be, and if not, who you do want to be. "

"Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others."

"Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live."

"You closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too-even when you are in the dark. Even when you're falling."

"As you grow old, you learn more. If you stayed at twenty-two, you'd always be as ignorant as you were at twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know. It's growth. It's more than the negative that you're going to die, its also the positive that you understand you're going to die, and that you live a better life because of it."

"Death ends a life, not a relationship."

"...if you're trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down on you anyhow. And if you're trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone."

People are only mean when they're threatened, and that's what our culture does...And when you get threatened, you start looking out only for yourself. You start making money a god. It is all part of this culture."

Don't hang on too long, but don't let go too soon."

Detachment

"What I’m doing now is detaching myself from the experience."

Detaching yourself?

"Yes. Detaching yourself. And this is important - not just for someone like me, who is dying, but for someone like you, who is perfectly healthy. Learn to detach."
…

But wait, I said. Aren't you always talking about experiencing life? All the good emotions, all the bad ones?

"Yes."

Well, how can you do that if you're detached?"

"… detachment doesn' t mean you don't let the experience *penetrate* you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you *fully*. That's how you are able to leave it.
…

Take any emotion - love for a woman, or grief for a loved one…. if you hold back on the emotions - if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them - you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.

But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. … I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment."
…

"Same for loneliness: you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely - but eventually be able to say, 'All right, that was my moment with loneliness. I'm not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I'm going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and I’m going to experience them as well." - p.104

看Tuesday with Morrie猶如經歷好朋友的生離死別一樣，我剛好是在2000年11月6日，Rebecca逝世一周年當天看到有關Morrie在11月4日去世的章節，害我看畢該書就坐在床邊大哭一場，最印象深刻的一段是Detachment。

抽離前，須先全身投入，那才會無憾！

誰的圍牆

相信自己建了圍牆的朋友，認爲應該爬過來的人還沒有爬，對方連嘗試爬的意欲也沒有。

我說如果他不會爬過來，我大可以爬到自己建的圍牆上，站在上面看清楚那個在圍牆另一邊的人，到底是他不會爬？不能爬？還是根本不打算爬？

到底怎樣才算爬過了圍牆？那是誰的圍牆？誰該爬過圍牆？如果他值得但他不爬過來，我大可以爬過去喔，爬過自己建的圍牆，不是會比較容易嗎？

I've built a wall

not to block anyone out

but to see who

loves me enough

to climb over it.

Brucia La Terra - The Godfather

The moon is burning in the sky
And I am burning with love
The fire that is consumed
Like my heart

My soul crys
Painfully

I'm not at peace
What a terrible night

The time passes
But there is no dawn
There is no sunshine
If she doesn't return

My land is burning
And my heart is burning
What it thirsts for water
And I thirst for love
Who will I sing
My song to
If there is no one
Who shows herself
On the balcony

Just The Way You Are

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TMSclJMMV0k

Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are

Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care

I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.

I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.

I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.

I COULD NOT LOVE YOU ANY BETTER. I LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. XO :)